“I want you to tell me about every person you’ve ever been in love with. Tell me why you loved them, then tell me why they loved you. Tell me about a day in your life you didn’t think you’d live through. Tell me what the word “home” means to you and tell me in a way that I’ll know your mothers name just by the way you describe your bed room when you were 8. See, I wanna know the first time you felt the weight of hate and if that day still trembles beneath your bones. Do you kiss your friends on the cheek? Do you think that anger is a sincere emotion or just the timid motion of a fragile heart trying to beat away its pain? See, I wanna know what you think of your first name. And if you often lie awake at night and imagine your mothers joy when she spoke it for the very first time. I want you tell me all the ways you’ve been unkind. Tell me all the ways you’ve been cruel.Do you believe that Mary was really a virgin? Do you believe that Moses really parted the sea? And if you don’t believe in miracles, tell me, how would you explain the miracle of my life to me? And for all the times you’ve knelt before the temple of yourself, have the prayers you’ve asked come true? And if they didn’t did you feel denied? And if you felt denied, denied by who[m]? I wanna know what you see when you look in the mirror on a day you’re feeling good. I wanna know what you see in the mirror on a day a day you’re feeling bad. I wanna know the first person who ever taught you your beauty could ever be reflected on a lousy piece of glass. If you ever reach enlightenment, will you remember how to laugh? Have you ever been a song? See, I wanna know more than what you do for a living. I wanna know how much of your life you spend just giving. And if you love yourself enough to also receive sometimes. I wanna know if you bleed sometimes through other people’s wounds. And if you dream sometimes that this life is just a balloon that if you wanted to you could pop—but you never would because you’d never want it to stop.”—Andrea Gibson (via herartificialworld)
you do NOT owe your family a visit this holiday season. don’t let people, family or not, guilt you into spending time with them if they are toxic, make you uncomfortable, or are negative aspects in your life.
don’t feel guilty for protecting yourself and your mental health this holiday season.
If the mean people in our lives were crappy 100% of the time, it would be easy to leave them. We would shrink from becoming friends with them or jump aboard the nope rocket in the early stages of trouble, and we would feel only relief when they are gone from our lives.
The problem is that very few people are evil all the time. They don’t wear villain costumes purchased at ForeverEvil. They don’t laugh maniacally and stroke their evil goatees while monologuing about their evil plans. They appear in our lives as People-Who-Would-Be-Awesome-Except-For-That-One-Glaring-Problem. They have potential to be awesome, and sometimes they are awesome, and they make us feel awesome, so we relax and let out that breath we’ve been holding in, and then BAM! They show their mean side, and we do a ton of mental work trying to reconcile the mean stuff with the awesome stuff.
Breaking up brings relief, as you lose the constant mental labor of managing the relationship AND the stress of being constantly disappointed and hurt, but it also brings grief. Shitty people who forget your birthday and give little backhanded compliments and gossip about your secrets sometimes give really good hugs, or presents, or are your favorite people to get drunk and watch figure-skating with, or were the sole witness to an important time in your life. The good times were real.
National Adoption Day is a collective national effort to raise awareness of the more than 100,000 children in foster care waiting to find permanent, loving families. This annual, one-day event has made the dreams of thousands of children come true by working with policymakers, practitioners and advocates to finalize adoptions and create and celebrate adoptive families.
Who the fuck cares where you went to school or where you work? The question is: Is everyday experience good, healthy, beautiful? Because I have to tell you, while it might be cool to work for a company like Google, Apple, or The New Yorker, if your job is stupid, stressful and your boss is an asshole, there is nothing good or prestigious about that. While it might seem right to go to a school like Berkeley, if classes are overcrowded and students are nervous, anxious, religious zealots from Orange County, are you sure you want to go there? What’s good about that?
To believe in prestige is to privilege abstract, collective impression over palpable, daily experience. To which I say: fuck prestige. Do what serves your everyday vitality.
Do you consider yourself part of a fandom? Want to contribute to a scientific study?
Daniel Chadborn is conducting a project to study the impact that fandoms have on those who are a part of them, and why people are fans to begin with. The more people that they hear from, the more powerful their science can be.
If you’d like to participate, visit the link above. You can find out more details about the project below, direct from Daniel, and please feel free to share it with your communities.
This is a psychological study to look at the similarities and unique differences amongst fans and fandoms, particularly why individuals are fans. Our research team is made up of four Psychologists, three of which are active academic researchers, and one retired Clinician. We have a combined total of over 60 years of teaching and research experience.
This is the next step for the research we began almost 3 years ago with Brony Study (www.bronystudy.com) and is most likely the first comprehensive study of multiple fandoms in the field of psychology in examining the reasons and functions fandoms serve for those apart of them.
If you could please spread the word, re-blog and signal boost this information. This research is NOT about marketing, NOT about negativity, and NEVER has been about painting fandoms in a bad light (in fact nearly all of the research we have found has generated positive results for the importance of fandoms as social communities and places to benefit those who belong), a general worry most have when researchers are interested in the groups they belong to. Our primary purpose is to investigate and better understand a misrepresented population within Psychological research and what roles these vast online and social communities have in a wide array of settings. Its success and findings however ultimately hinge on the survey’s completion, buy You, the fans.
So please take a look at what we have done before, we are legitimate, IRB approved, and associated with several universities in the United States. Our past work has collected nearly 40,000+ participants worth of data and we continue to push forward in our research with the Brony Fandom.
If you are a fan of ANYTHING or know a fan of ANYTHINg, please take the time to check out the survey or at least pass it along for others. Whoovains, Bronies, Homestucks, Helatians, Sherlockians, Trekkies, Potterheads, Fans of Fashion, Sports, Movies, Television, Art, News, Science, Literature, Anything and Everything. The more diverse and robust group of fans we can get to fill out the survey the more accurate and comprehensive our findings can be.
We thank you for your time and any questions, comments, or concerns can be addressed to firstname.lastname@example.org. We also plan to post our findings for everyone to access once we finish data collection and analysis.